“what are you wearing?” they asked
as i marched through the crowd of glamour and glitz.
dumbly, i looked down at the gown that i wore.
“a dress,” i said, feeling deflated.
why would they ask?
does it matter if i wear
a thing that i plucked
from the rails of forever twenty one?
does it matter that the blusher and lipstick is on?
i wish so bad that you would learn to see
that rather inadvertently
you’ve missed a golden opportunity
to open up a conversation
that would give you a sort of indication
that the world at large, it wants to hear,
less about the stuff that’s so nonsensical
and more about the things we loathe
and that we love and that we fear.
that’s what pulls upon the strings
that hold our hearts in place.
that’s what reaches inside our soul,
shining a light on all that is dark
making us squirm and scratch at the skin
until nothing is left but a thing that is raw,
the clothes that you asked about all tattered and torn.
so now it is time that i make you a pledge
if you ask where i bought the shoes on my feet
or who was the person that coiffed my hair
i’ll say something smart and incredibly deep
and i’ll do it with style
and courage and flair.
I saw this thing that was said by Jennifer Lawrence and just had to write something about it. It made me laugh and get angry all at once which is what all the best quotes should do. Nothing should be entirely black or white if it’s going to make us think and open up a lively debate.
On the one hand, asking her what she is wearing is the standard question we expect to hear on the red carpet. It’s what the designers put the dress on her for. But then she kind of has a point. Are we worrying too much about the things that shouldn’t really matter at all?
We are living in a world where so many people have depression and anxiety and so much of it is because we are scared that we are not good enough. There is a deep black hole inside some of us and it could be filled if we started asking meaningful questions. Better questions than “is the dress you are wearing really expensive and highly sought after?”
We should be seeking kindness and fun and a desire to love; this is what will make the world a nicer place to live in. I hope that today you spend a little less time judging people by what they are wearing, what job they do and what car they drive and a little more time getting to know the real them and what makes them tick.