We sat across the table in companionable silence.
He was bent over his crossword
And I just watched as I nursed a coffee mug,
Shouting out answers to clues he was stuck on.
I loved him,
But I never told him.
So can I blame him that he found someone else?
Still, it aches more than anything I’ve ever felt
To watch his relationship play out in shots
Perfectly captured on her Instagram.
Next time I’ll be braver and bolder
And swallow the fear that I’ll be beaten down.
I’ll tell him what’s really on my heart.
And maybe next time I won’t have to suffer
This pain in my chest
All for the boy that I loved from near.
We always talk about loving someone from afar, but I often find that most of my secret crushes have been for men who I know really well as friends first. So I feel like we should be saying ‘I loved you from near’ instead.
I had one male friend who I spent loads of time with. We went running and we would eat together on every Saturday night. I told all my friends about him and between us girls we had pretty much married me off to him.
However, I hadn’t had that conversation with him. Perhaps it was because I was scared of rejection, of losing a great friendship. But the fact remains that I didn’t tell him I liked him until it was too late.
He found a girlfriend, I lost my shit and now I don’t see him at all.
It’s so sad that it had to pan out like that but it has taught me that I should try to overcome these insecurities and just go for it. It’s a pity that it’s the hardest thing to do when you are already friends.
If you are struggling to tell somebody that you like them, I think you just need to bite the bullet and tell them. I wouldn’t want you to lose a good friend like I did, and all because I didn’t have the confidence the handle the situation like and adult.