Fists are often wielded while our knuckles bleed
And teeth are spat in bloody globs,
The pain is all consuming but we need to fight
If we are going to win back our souls
That once were sold to devils in disguise.
But even though we’re singing when we’re winning
We always find we don’t know what we’ve won,
We put up such an earthy fight and we’re left
Wishing for the good old things that graced our lives to start.
I sometimes find that I have a tendency to fight for things that I think I want and then when I get them, I’m not so sure that I want them any more. I’m really hoping that it’s all part of the human condition because I think that we’re wired to be a bit selfish, if I’m being honest.
I think that sometimes we fight for something we want and it’s not that we change our minds, but rather we want what we fought for AND what we had before.
And something that I’m learning as I grow older is that we can’t have it all. If you want one thing you normally have to sacrifice another to get it. For instance, if you want to be a fast runner you have to sacrifice the time you enjoy in front of the TV so that you can go out training.
In my life I’ve always wanted both the family and the career and it has always been a massive flop because I just couldn’t balance the two. And I think that a lot of it is down to selfishness.
We’ve fought for equality as women, and now that we have a place in the working world we wonder why we can’t balance the kids and the housework too.
I’m not saying that we should go back to the times when women were expected to stay at home to do the cooking and cleaning and look after ten kids, but I am saying that at least those women knew where they stood.
Women nowadays need to chill out and remember that we can’t do it all. It is fine to just stay at home and look after your kids and it’s fine to not have kids and be a girl boss. And it’s fine to do a bit of both. But don’t beat yourself up if you can’t do both with all guns blazing.
But more importantly, think before you fight for the right to do something that is a privilege. Having children is a privilege and having a great career is too. Don’t fight for one and then expect the other to be handed to you on a plate. That’s not what the women who went before us fought for.
That’s just selfish and I can say that because I expected to be given both. I’m going to stop ranting now and let you all get back to conquering the world.