
He stands there at the altar, back turned,
I don’t know his name, or who his mother is,
What his friends will think?
I couldn’t even take the Tinder leap
So what I’m doing here?
And hitching up my bridal skirts
I push those fearful thoughts way down
And let those words I need to form
Take their shape upon my tongue:
I do….
My dad and I love watching Married At First Sight Australia. It’s the trashiest TV you can find but it also opens a window into the world of somebody else’s marriage. ; something you don’t get to see all that often.
If you haven’t seen it before, they basically get a group of people who have never met and they get paired with somebody that the experts deem to be their perfect match. They are married and the wedding is the first time that they get to meet each other.
Understandably, there are some couples that fail miserably and these are the fun ones to watch. They offer the entertainment value and something for us to all laugh at.
But it does make me think about what makes a perfect match and you get to see how some people just sabotage relationship after relationship and they don’t seem to have any notion that they are to blame. I hope that getting sober has helped me to see my part in things that have gone wrong in the past, but I do wonder whether I would still fall into my old behaviours. Would there be anybody out there who could put up with me?
It has also interested me to think how I would fare on the show and whether I could stomach getting married to somebody I don’t know. To me, it feels like a real leap of faith and I don’t know if I would ever be brave enough.
I have even gone as far as looking at the application form….just wondering if I could do…..if I could be one of those lucky ones that it works out for.
Much Love
Rachel xx
henhouselady
Great poem. I’ve never heard of the Australian TV show, It sounds like it would be amusing to watch. It also seems like a recipe for disaster.
Margot Kinberg
That’s an interesting question about how you’d fare on one of those shows. I will say this: I’m not sure those ‘compatibility measures are always reliable. When my husband and I were first together, plenty of people didn’t think we’d make it. We are different people with different interests. But here we are, 36 years later, still married and happy together. For me, it’s about making the decision to make it work. I don’t mean you put up with abuse or stay in a toxic or dangerous relationship. I do mean that it’s not all about whether you both like the same films, say, or the same cuisine. That stuff’s great, but it doesn’t always keep a relationship together.
patientandkindlove
All love is a compromise, I guess….
V.J. Knutson
I am fascinated by this show also! Intriguing to see what works and what doesn’t, plus I think I learn a lot about relationship.
patientandkindlove
Yes, I find myself looking at my own flaws and wondering if I’d react in the same way?!
anotherkatewilson
OMG… you get Australian Married at First Sight?? What must people think of Australia… why can’t we export something less trashy? Like… ummm… umm…
patientandkindlove
I got hooked on Australian Love Island last year so I’m seeing all the best parts of Australia during lockdown!
Lovie Price
i’ve done this in real life and do not recommend it. The guy turned out to be a recently recovered crack addict who slipped easily back into the habit once he had access to funds again.Very scary and did a lot of damage .
patientandkindlove
Wow, that is scary and it just goes to show why we all like to cyber stalk people before we get involved with them!
Lovie Price
yup..this was way back though..no internet days…haha