mum, i think i’m gay….

You’re love no matter what, dear son,

I’ve watched you grow into a man,

I’ve fed and clothed and washed out bloody knees.

How could it be possible to turn that rooted love

Into something festering and hateful too,

Just because of who you love?

My son came to me after several days of being really down, and he told me that he thinks he might be gay. He had been down because he was worried about how I would react and the more I think about it, the more I wonder whether there is a correct way to react.

My initial reaction was a bit of surprise. He’s not a rough and tumble boy, but he’s also not camp, so it wasn’t ‘expected’. But then I very quickly went into a very flippant attitude.

I’m open to anyone loving whoever they want. I strongly believe that we’re all on a bit of a sliding scale. I think we’d be lying to ourselves if we said that we have never felt something for someone of the same sex, no matter how fleeting.

So I kind of just smiled and shrugged and said that I really don’t mind. Which is the truth. But is it what he wanted to hear? He had obviously built it up in his head and I don’t know if my attitude would have seemed a bit flat.

It did remind of the time I told my mum that I was pregnant with him and that fear I felt before I did it. Her reaction was perfect, but who knows how you’re supposed to do these things. I guess this has just taught me that we just have to try the best we can and give each other the love and support that we’d want if we were in the same situation.

Much Love

Rachel xx

5 thoughts on “mum, i think i’m gay….

  1. Margot Kinberg

    Your son is lucky to have a mum who loves him exactly as he is. The person is, no matter who he loves, is unique and amazing; the fact that you see that will help him see that.

  2. katiemiafrederick

    Your Son Is Blessed By Love

    A Mother Loved
    Her Religion

    More

    Than

    Accepting

    Who Her

    Daughter

    Was It Nearly

    Drove The

    Daughter

    To Suicide

    (Happens
    Every

    Day)

    Yet She Loved

    Her Mother Through

    The End Took

    Care

    Of Her

    No Matter
    What Love

    Wins

    More

    Powerful

    Than

    Any

    Religion

    More Powerful

    Than Any

    Smaller

    God

    Than

    Love For All…🦋

  3. Jackjones

    If any of my four children told me that they were gay i guess my reaction would be to hug them and tell them that i love them no matter what happens in their lives or what they prefer to do in their lives, i would support them as much as they needed.

  4. crispina kemp

    Feel for you. How do we react? My eldest daughter told me she was gay. Great, I thought, cos her choice of men of late had been disastrous. Then a couple of months she introduced us to her new man. They’re now married and she’s happily hetro (for now) Yes a sliding scale.

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