is anyone doing any parenting?

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They are your bloody responsibility,

You brought them into the world

And they hang like a black cloud

In an atmosphere already choked

With a negative chill, pulling us all

Down to a place where we grovel in dirt.

Teach them some manners, some kindness,

Compassion and love for the rest of the world.

I have spent another afternoon crying at my desk because some cocky fifteen year olds seem to think that they know everything. They are really vile to me and I have heard from other teachers that it is not just me. My question is: what the flipping hell are the parents doing?

If your child has reached Year 10 and they are that rude and arrogant, are you doing anything to stem the problem? I would be devastated to know that my son was making teachers question their competence when he’s the one being disruptive.

And when I have phoned parents they say ‘oh, he can’t do a detention on Tuesday because he has football on’. NO! If he is not playing for England, you take that privilege away!

Teachers have no power to use force, or take away things from students. If they refuse to do something that I ask them to do, there’s not a lot I can do. And yet teachers are blames.

I hope you can hear the frustration in this because I’m feeling a little bit broken at the moment, and I wish that parents could see that. I just wonder whether they would actually care?

Much Love

Rachel xx

7 thoughts on “is anyone doing any parenting?

  1. Margot Kinberg

    I hurt for you, Rachel. It is so hard when students behave like that and parents do nothing. When parents are entitled, they pass that on to their children, and that’s the result. Let me just reassure you that it is NOT you. It is a culture of self-entitlement. And for every kid who treats you that way, you mean the world to another, even if you don’t see it.

  2. clcouch123

    No, it isn’t you. And you ask a good question. And you shouldn’t feel absolutely alone in your work. I don’t know what to do about daily arrogance. In life, we try to avoid arrogant people, because arrogance is a waste of attitude.

    Technically, teens are children, though they do not act that way. This is where parenting should come in.

    School was invented as an extension of the home, not the other way around.

    I hope it isn’t too ideal to hope that you are enjoying the company of other teachers and the support of administrators. And have you met the school bouncer? Kidding! (Mostly.)

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