
The heaviest weight
That squashes and squeezes
Til the air can’t be held
In these lungs any more,
That is the weight
Of their problems just dropped
Onto her lap, not wrapped with a bow,
Tell me, where does that pain go?
I have just started listening to the audiobook version of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb and it just made me think about how hard it must be to shoulder the weight of all those problems coming into your office each day.
I struggle to deal with the teenage problems that come into my room and I’m not even meant to be dealing with their issues. I have sometimes gone home feeling drained and sad for the kids in my class, taking on some of the pain they float my way.
I take my hat off to those people who listen to horrible stories of pain each and every day. It must be a real skill to keep yourself walled off so that you don’t make yourself sick.
I’m looking forward to listening to the rest of the book on my long runs this holiday. I’m sure I’ll laugh and I’ll cry throughout. I guess that’s how they do deal with the job; cling onto the successes and the funny stories that they are let in on.
Much Love
Rachel xx
Margot Kinberg
Therapists do have a heavy burden, Rachel, and I think they must develop ways to take care of themselves for that reason. It’s not too different to being a teacher, really. As a teacher, you shoulder your students’ burdens, and so it’s little wonder you get so tired and sometimes feel low…