
They stand at the edge of the field
Sniggering sharply, behind hiding hands,
Not willing to shout, but too cool to cheer.
One day they’ll grow, and know how it feels
To suffer their dagger and barbed little words.
For now I will dance to the beat of my drum,
No letting girls in their sour teenage years
Pull me to pieces in the prime of my life.
So, during my first year of teaching I have found that I really struggle with older students (those of around fourteen to fifteen). It’s surprised me that I gel with the younger ones, while I tend to bring out the worst in a Year 10.
There was one group of girls that particularly upset me early on, and the class was taken off me because they were really being nasty. However, I still have to see these girls around school so I’ve really had to grow a slightly thicker skin for when I pass them in corridors and they give me withering looks.
Today, I took part in the school triathlon, and I’m not exactly a sprinter so I was bringing up the back of the pack during the run. It was done at lunchtime and we ran straight through the middle of the school grounds so that we could have a marathon vibe as we competed.
Of course, these girls were at the side of the route and I saw them laughing at me as I passed. But you know what? I kept on running and waving at all the students who were cheering me on.
I know that 15 is a tough age and I really hope that in a couple of years they will look back at their Mean Girls ways and cringe a little bit. I just hope that my little Year 7s stay nice and I never have to feel embarrassed running past them.
Much Love
Rachel xx
Margot Kinberg
I’m glad you’ve learned to find your own strength and not fall prey to those girls’ demons. Be you! And the fact is, you’re modeling self-confidence and strength, and that’s good for them to see. They’re not self-confident or strong if they have to act like that to feel b etter.
clcouch123
With your running by the mean girls (while they’re mean) and reinforcing the positive behavior of others, you are establishing patterns that are truly promising. Lead on! (What my teaching course teacher used to say to us.)