Why you never need to be jealous (plus poem)

Jealousy is one of those emotions that I just can’t seem to shake and it really is one of the most draining. And I sometimes feel like I am the only one in the whole entire world that is feeling it.

It’s so easy in these times that we find ourselves in to look at what other people have and wish that we had it too (or instead). The rise of social media and the internet in general has made it incredibly easy to peer into other people’s lives. For a lot of reasons this is brilliant as we can connect with friends and family everywhere, but we can also see exactly what others have and when their lives are full of abundance it’s like having our own life force sucked from us.

I’m a sporty person and in sport there are a lot of times when things go wrong and races end in disappointment. This is hard enough to deal with, but when you then go on Facebook and see all your friends winning medals and doing amazing times it can bring out the very worst in you. I find myself seething at other people’s achievements when I know that I should be happy for them. And it’s not like you can even talk to anyone about it because it’s such a nasty emotion. You just have to let it fester which is never a good way to deal with something.

We also have the media chucking advertising at us, making us envy celebrities. The very idea behind advertising is to make us hate ourselves. If they can make us believe that we are too fat or too ugly or too bland then they can sell us their latest diet product or make up or perfume. If we buy it then we may end up looking just like a Kardashian, right?

I don’t know if I could write anything here that could ever soothe the pain that jealousy brings with it but I can tell you what I tell myself to at least take the edge off it. I would recommend that you spend some time writing down what you are grateful for, what you are good at and what you like about yourself. If someone does something amazing and posts it on Facebook, write a comment to congratulate them and then just move on. Better yet, don’t even go on social media because it can suck the life out of you if you’re not feeling very good about yourself anyway. And continually tell yourself that you are amazing. You are enough. The world needs to tell you that you’re crap because it needs to sell you something. But the truth of the matter is that most people wouldn’t know if you’re jeans cost £8 or £80 unless they asked to see the label (and that just makes them look weird)! Everybody is feeling just as insecure as you so just hold your head high and love who you are. You have gifts that other people will be jealous of and you may not even realise it, so love everything you do and appreciate that you can do it.

And because I love a good rhyme, here’s another crappy attempt at poetry by me. And if it really is crappy, it doesn’t matter because at least I’ve created something and I had fun doing it!

I sometimes wish that I was somewhere over there,

where all the happy people come to share,

In all their glories, big and small,

A place where people never trip and stumble or take a fall.

But over here we have no luck,

A place where where pain and sadness always struck.

I wish I could be over there,

But who ever said that life was fair?

Much love, Rachel xx